Saturday, July 18, 2009

A Mean, Ugly Mommy

We went to a High School Musical 3 party today. It was one of Holly's best friends. You would think she would have been thrilled-and she was... until about 30 minutes into the party. She decided that she didn't want her picture taken. She didn't want to participate in the fun games (the games were really cool, by the way!). She didn't want to eat pizza. She only wanted to stay right by me the entire party. Now, maybe being the imperfect mommy that I am, I may have made the situation worse by trying to persuade her to participate. In retrospect, I could have just let her be and allow her to stand by me the whole party-it's not like she was being disruptive or anything. And it's not a crime to not want to participate sometimes, as long as you're not being rude. I know I have those moments myself. But nooooo, I couldn't do that. I was relentless, reminding her that she wouldn't like it if HER friends didn't play at HER party and act like party poopers. I really feel like I provoked her to meanness. Don't get me wrong, I'm not making excuses for her mood, but I also need to look at situations like this and see where I could have been a better example and parent to my children.
Anyway, after not wanting to eat pizza, she decided she wanted the ice cream sundae. Well, under the circumstances that was not acceptable. We went to a quiet spot, a.k.a. the laundry room, and had a little talk. It was at that point that she was just saying mean things and being completely unreasonable. I administered a little correction and decided that she needed to be removed from the situation. We went to the van, (we couldn't leave because I had brought my nieces to the party) and sat there and talked about what had happened, which quickly turned into her yelling at me, "You are a mean, ugly Mommy!! Well at that point I started to cry. Don't know why the water works came because I generally am not a cryer! I guess I just felt exasperated and I had visions of her at 13 and how this same situation could be repeated! At that point we both just sat there and cried! I quietly sat there and prayed that God would help me handle this the right way not the way my flesh wanted to handle it! Like by saying things back like, "Well your a mean, moody daughter!!" and other clever, mature comebacks that came to my mind! After about 5 minutes she said, "I'm sorry, Mommy". I asked her what she was sorry for which she was able to articulate beautifully. We went back into the party and she pulled her friend aside and apologized to her and enjoyed the next 15 minutes of the party as a happy child. As part of her punishment I told her when we got home she would have to take a nap. I put her to bed and she was asleep in 5 minutes. She is still sleeping as I type -2 1/2 hours later! Well, what does all this have to do with Saturday Psalms, you ask? After she went down for her nap, I was reading some Psalms to help me refocus after our dramatic afternoon and I read this verse as my prayer:

Psalm 143:10 Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground.

I felt like I was on a roller coaster this afternoon! I NEED God to keep me on level ground as a parent, as a wife, as a human being!

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

I copied this from Becca on Facebook. Entertaining yet pointless use of words!

Two Names You Go By:

Two Things You Are Wearing Right Now:
1. point of grace tshirt
2. Christmas pajama pants (sexy, I know)

Two songs you love right now:
1. anything by NeedtoBreathe
2. Then by Brad Paisley

Two role models:
1. my mom
2. my God

Two friends you can’t live without:
1. Lori
2. Cheryl

Two Things You Want in a Relationship:
1. Longevity
2. Forgiveness

Two of Your Favorite Things to do:
1. scrapping
2. teaching

Two people you care a lot about:
1. my husband
2. my kids

Two people you could care less about:
1. Barack (I can't give last names...)
2. Michael Jackson

Two great times in your life:
1. August 13, 1994 my wedding day
2. the birth of both my children

Two Things You Want Very Badly At The Moment:
1. to lose 13 pounds
2. to be a patient mommy

Two things you're doing tonight:
1. making lasagna for my family
2.watching 24

Two pets you had/have:
1. Dallas-my 15 year old toy poodle
2. a turtle named Rocky

Two things you want in your future:
1. to see my kids live for Christ
2. to celebrate my 50th anniversary (only 35 years to go!)

Two people that live in your house:
1. Dylan
2. Holly

Two things you would buy if you could:
1. a bigger food pantry
2. a bigger closet

Two things you ate today:
1.chick fil a chicken nuggets
2. lasagna

Two favorite holidays:
1. my kids' birthdays
2. Christmas Eve

Two favorite beverages:
1. sweet tea
2. coffee

Two favorite foods:
1. lettuce wraps from Cheesecake Factory
2. cereal

Two favorite movies:
1. Family Man
2. Fugitive

Two favorite desserts:
1. Lemon Meringue Pie
2. Homemade Chocolate chip cookies

Two favorite hobbies:
1. scrapbooking
2. cooking new recipes

Two favorite colors:
1. pink
2. brown

Two pet peeves:
1. when my kids wrestle in my house
2. screaming kids

Two fears:
1. losing a loved one
2. Brian losing his job

Two things you would change about you:
1. my weight
2. my attitude

Two things you have read recently:
1. "Say Goodbye to complaining, whining and bad attitudes in your kids"
2. Even Now by Karen Kingsbury

Two people you last texted:
1. Brian
2. Lori

Two things you hate:
1. lies
2. laundry

Two things you always take on a trip:
1. cell phone
2. book

Two things to do before you die:
1. travel to cool places with my husband
2. go on a missions trip

Tackle It Tuesday

I just discovered the most amazing thing-the magic eraser! Have you tried this thing??? Well actually I used the Target brand eraser because I'm cheap-but it is really magic! My project for today was to clean the grout in my kitchen. I had two products ready to try-the eraser and soft scrub. I couldn't believe how dirty my grout really was and how miraculously and effortlessly the eraser cleaned it! I went through about 8 erasers to clean my whole kitchen and entry way (which is a small area). It cost me less than 6 bucks, which is way cheaper than the professionals I was contemplating calling. Now I'm off to "magic eraser" my bathroom...



Monday, July 6, 2009

If I Were A...

I stole this from Lauren, who stole it from Rachel, who stole it from Andrea, who stole it from Kristen. Feel free to steal it from me and customize it for your blog.

If I were a flower, I would be a daisy, simple, yet pretty...

If I were a song, I would be "Legacy" by Nicole Nordeman. This is the prayer for my life when all is said and done...

If I were a movie, I would be 24 (does that count??) I'm so addicted to it!

If I were a place, I would be a classroom...Teaching is just part of me!

If I were a book, I would be...this one is hard-I guess I would be whatever book I'm currently reading..."Say Goodbye to whining, complaining and bad attitudes in you and your kids".

If I were a holiday, I would be Christmas because everything is centered around Jesus and spending time with family... plus the ribbons and bows don't hurt.

If I were a time of day, I would be midnight. I love being up at that time alone and reading a good book.

If I were a drink, I'd be sweet tea...

If I were a food, I would be Japanese food-yummy, but there are choices that aren't fattening.

If I were an article of clothing, I would be worn comfy blue jeans.

If I were a pair of shoes, I would be flip flops, of course!

What about you... what would you be?

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Thankful Thursday

I am thankful that God protected us today as a black cadillac pulled out right in front of us! Of course I was on the phone which could have made it even worse. God cleared the lane next to us. I had to swerve over without even having a chance to look. I was going about 45 miles per hour. Thank you Lord for protecting me and my children on the road today!

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Weigh Down Wednesday

I have bad news and I have good news. The bad news is I chowed down on sausage rotel dip when the girls came over last night. The good news is that I did exercise this week and drank water more than I had been. As a result I lost the pound I gained last week. Now -a pound is nothing to jump up and down about. But it's something; and I really only put forth about a pound of effort this week. It's important to stay positive on this journey. I think it's typical of us women to get so down on ourselves when we don't accomplish all that we hoped. So, to summarize, I LOST A POUND! GO, ME!!


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