Sunday, February 26, 2012

Weekly Plans

Last week was a busy week at the Hughes Home.  I purpose to keep our lives from getting to0 busy.  We say "no" frequently.  But every once in a while with jobs, church, and kids, a crazy week is inevitable.  I did not cook one meal last week.  I'm looking forward to a "normal" week and being able to serve my family by cooking for them.  So here's how the week will pan out (hopefully!).

Digging Deeper Into God's Word:  With Easter being  a little over a month away, I'm starting   The Passion of Jesus Christ by John Piper.  It's meant to be read in the 50 days leading up to Easter.  I highly recommend it.  It's a great way for me to prepare my heart for Easter.

Motherhood Ministry:    With the busyness of the past weeks, I didn't get to "enjoy" my children.  I was basically in survival mode! So this week, I want to have fun with them, play a game with them, play catch with Dylan, play school with Holly.  My goal is to "play" at least once this week with each of my children.

Marriage Builders:   Working on being attentive to Brian!-this will mean closing the computer or putting down the phone to be an active listener!

What's For Dinner:  

Monday- Beef Stroganoff and salad and french bread (I have lots of ground beef in the freezer that needs to be used!)
Click on the pic for the recipe.

Tuesday-  Bacon Wrapped Chicken in the Crockpot, roasted carrots
Wednesday- Sonny's for kids eat free.
Thursday- Taco Pasta, cornbread with salad

Friday- Chicken Parmesan Subs, corn

 Gotta Get It Done:    *Catch up on Laundry!  Normally I don't do laundry during the week, but since I'm behind the washer will be running all week!

On the Calendar:   
*Monday-baseball practice for Dylan
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Are you making any great recipes this week?  Please share!!

Blessings to you,

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Teaching Our Daughters Self Control

We teach our children all sorts of things.  We teach them about manners, how to share, working hard at school, just to name a few.  But do we teach specifically about self-control? 
Boys obviously need self-control as well.  But I want to focus on our daughters

Girls can be EMOTIONAL.  Some more than others.

I am not a hyper-sensitive female.  I don't cry at movies, and I don't boo-hoo during that time of the month.  That's not to say that I am emotionless-But I am aware that there is a time and a place for emotions.  And I'm sorry, but emotional "outbursts" in everyday situations are not o.k.
When I had my 2nd born child, a daughter,  (my first child is a relatively calm, compliant boy),  I was in unchartered territory.  She was definitely more emotional.  I remember around the age of 2, she would cry ALOT.  I'm not talking about colic type cry, I'm talking my world has been crushed because I didn't get my way cry. I knew I could not go through the next 18 years like this!  God began to nudge me to train her in the area of self-control.  
So at the age of 2, I began teaching her about self-control.  
It started with little things-like when she folded her arms to pout, I would tell her to put her arms down.
If she was crying over a toy, I would physically remove her or the toy from the situation.    
The self-control started with helping her control her physical actions.   And I would use the word "self-control" when I talked to her about her actions.   
As 3 and 4 rolled around, I talked to her about how God wants us to have self control.  If you're not hurt, you don't have to cry "like that".  There were daily opportunities to remind her that "this is not self controlled behavior".  
By age 5, she fully understood what self-control was.  Was she always self-controlled-no! But then again, am I always self-controlled? However, I could see her "controlling" her emotions in many situations.
At 6, she prayed to receive Christ.  She began to understand the fruit of the spirit.  We've prayed many times for God to help her have self-control.
Presently, at 7, she is not the emotional little girl she was at 2 and 3.  I believe it's not just that she's matured.  I believe it's because, by the grace of God and tools given to me by God, we have trained her.  

Still not convinced? We've all seen 6, 7, 8, 10,13,15, and even 30 year old girls who whine and cry and are emotional messes.  Why didn't they "mature"?  They weren't trained.  They weren't taught to recognize that particular fruit.   The other day, she became visibly upset when I told her do something.   She didn't cry, whine or argue with me.  She went into the bathroom.  She was quietly crying.  Even my husband asked me what she was doing. LOL But 5 minutes later, she came out composed and went upstairs, and obeyed the instruction I had given her.  That was one of those moments that I saw fruits of my labor!  
Please understand that I don't want my daughter to be emotionless.  She is going to cry and get upset, and that's o.k. on occasion or when the situation warrants real emotions.  But I want her to understand that she doesn't have to cry over every.little.thing.  
Being a woman is not a license to be an emotional mess.  
The fruit of the spirit of self-control applies to us also.  
Of course, this is always a work in progress, as is all aspects of child rearing.  But the growth and maturity I have seen in her is amazing.  
The best way I can train her to be self-controlled in her emotions is to model it.  She has to see me living what I preach.  
I love the verses in Titus 2 that charge us, as women to train the younger women-especially our daughters!!  I'll leave you with these verses:
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Blessings to you, 

Friday, February 3, 2012

The Good Wife's Guide Book Review

I recently read Darlene Schacht's ebook The Good Wife's Guide, Embracing Your Role as a Help Meet.  And I.LOVED.EVERY.PAGE.  

It was one of the most practical "wife" books I've ever read.  But don't let the practical side fool you, I believe that in the same way the movie Courageous challenged men, The Good Wife's Guide can and will  challenge women!

Top 5 reasons I loved this book:
1.  It is not just a book for stay at home mom's.  It's hands on information that is for women "who take joy in serving their families..."
2.  I love how the book's standard for being a "good wife" is the godly standard of Proverbs 31, not a worldly standard.  It addresses some of the pitfalls that women fall into that are very "anti-Proverbs 31" like laziness and overindulging.  We don't like to admit it-but these are real issues for us!  
3.  It addresses discipline and self-sacrifice.  Both of which will produce "life-lasting results" in our homemaking, parenting, and our quest to be godly women and wives.   
4.  It is honest about time management.  I know from experience that many of my short-comings and successes all rest on time management or lack of it.  I loved seeing such valuable guidelines to help me in black and white!
5.  One of my most favorite parts were the attitude check verses that I can meditate on for every area of my home.  I love how she shows that God cares about every detail in our lives through these verses!

I could give you lots more reasons why I loved this book-but I want you to go get this ebook and read it for yourself!  It will be time well spent!

Blessings to you,


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